Yes! You and me. I see you having the same charm and vulnerable soul as the character you played on screen or behind. We’re both afraid of making terrible cultural blunders. Sometimes you get what you deserved, but some are still fighting for their fortune breaks. We fell in love with life from different stories written under the stars and still falling, trying, everyday! You’ve got wounds and I’ve got mine, we’re both beautiful people painted in lovely scars. “Us and we”, a sweet note that you are never too alone. Choose the right cast of people to be part of your episode. Choose wisely. You have a brave heart just like everybody else. I don’t know who you are but I’m pretty sure you’re one damn lucky soul to exist.-🍁
Don’t ever convince yourself to be with someone just because you’re running out of time and options and settle for less to play safe with your ego. No!Never! Instead, find that feeling where you’re simply happy and love being around the person, it really is that simple.
Love is always a beautiful feeling. And having a healthy and lasting relationship are couples relationship goals. Maybe there’s a perfect relationship out there, maybe there isn’t or maybe there’s the one always in progress. Whatever category you fall preserve your integrity. Don’t forget yourself in the process, take time for yourself to do what you love, what makes you happy and gives you energy — being successful as a couple will only work if each of you is strong and fulfilled as an individual.
1. We’ve got a list we used to follow, but communication is always for real before you hit certain speed bumps. Sharing everything with each other from how’s your day went to how you feel before you sleep will surely survive the long haul. Nobody can beat the two sets of feet walking on the common ground unless the other one is flying, well you can hold their hands instead.- But you talk, foster open communication wih your partner.
2. Not all donuts are sweet, we have those days when it doesn’t taste as good as yesterday but remember relationship is much bigger than the temporary taste you can swallow in seconds. Let the minor things go, bad stuffs happens and it’s normal, let it pass. You don’t wish to sleep with a heavy heart. Don’t you?
3. Don’t take each other’s weaknesses for granted. Encourage your partner to be the best version of themself. Chase all your dreams together. Be nice. Be patient. Hold hands to reach the goal.-“For every successful person, there’s a strong support behind”.
4. Celebrate! Celebrate! When good things happen. Be expressive about it, show your appreciation. Take that hell of a good toast.
5. Trust! It’s very important. Don’t break it. Nobody is perfect but we can all be trustworthy.
6. Be more generous giving compliments, time, surprises and attention. When you started dating you could have said thousands of sweet words, dine out even on your busy schedules, bought each other’s favourite stuffs just to see them happy, what’s stopping you now?
7. Make each other laugh. Having sense of humor is very attractive. Try not to take everything seriously. Life is serious already. It would be awesome to have someone around ready for ice breaker in between the role play.
8. Compromise. Sounds scary maybe but if you truly care about the relationship, it won’t be as hard cause it’s a non-negotiable part of love. It’s a perspective taking that both agreed on.We need the push and pull string to balance things out. We can’t always fight to stand our grounds right but we can meet half way to generate less conflict.
9. Last but definitely not the least don’t forget to say “I love you”. Make it a routine. It means a lot. I mean a whole lot.
I’m going to sit on my bench to tell you three words I seem to hate when abusively used by the same person for the same reason for the 4th time. I’m too generous for three limits, four chances aren’t bad at all. And these are not the worst words ever either but triggers the pattern of my clock to run counter clockwise. When we read our senses become involved. It forms a picture in our head and changes the whole true concept when the words are being used consecutively.
1. Sorry. You can never go wrong with an apology from the heart. We all make mistakes and that’s given, we are way far from perfect but we can also try to avoid them if we’re just paying attention in the small details. 2nd time I’ll give it away without a word, and still feel good after forgiving. 3rd it’s already unpleasant but I have to even with a heavy heart. 4th just forget about me or I will seriously. But after 2 days without talking a brand new record of counting again.
2. Busy. I don’t like this myth that I don’t have time. It’s a lie when too often. Yes we have those days but if your mind is already set to being busy then you’ll never gonna have time. I believe it’s a decision you make. If you are really interested you’ll find a way instead of an excuse, because we can all be busy at some point more on if we choose to. For the people or things that we truly care about “no time” isn’t something that we intend to keep.
3. Maybe. It’s such an awful word. It’s like you don’t know what you’re up to. Destructive. You’re delaying the decision until something better comes up or not. I don’t like to play between a yes or a no, either you will or would not. Well, basically synonymous of “NO”.
So here’s the moody weather everyone calls, an excuse to stay in. Wear your favorite pajamas, dramatically stare out of the window, some gets emotional while others are having a whale of time with a good taste of wine, or hot chocolate maybe, hang out on the couch and indulge in a Netflix marathon movies. Some kind of cozy smaller world. If you’re single and happy this works for you too. If you just broke up yesterday I’m sorry this might be a bit dreary but whether we admit it or not cold nights, dark skies are just perfect metaphor for our souls right now. Sudden memories bring back but still feels lovely even after the not so good patch. We can’t help but to tap our emo side, sooo emo.. that we almost feel like a victim of some sort as it gives us a sense of peace throwing tissues after tissues, if you know what I mean. For couples obviously it’s a season of romance. And leaving hail-fellow-well-met extroverts bored. Hard not to have a heart eyes seeing the scattered droplets of water fall outside the glass window where it allows me to surrender and simply seize the moment, the unique feeling, when my brain functions better, when everything just syncs and more at ease for the rest of the day.
People will always have different thoughts on different kinds of weather. Some people who constantly experience rain would definitely prefer sunny day. But when all you do is sweat and stink, get exhausted by the smallest efforts and have your make-up running down your face within 5 minutes of leaving home, I think it’s a valid reason to be stressed. Not everyone are pluviophile but no matter what weather you have, or where you are ,in places with dry and rainy seasons there are those who would enjoy rainy nights and a cup of coffee just as much as I do.-🍁
Perhaps not in your TOP Bucket list to wander caused by society’s connotation be related to one of the Arab Countries. The truth is Qatar is not a soulless place. In fact, it’s a great spot for sunshine at least before the temperature strikes 41°C and not as cold as snow during winter season. Structures of the buildings brings a unique modern profile to the skyline of the city in the middle of the desert. Still in the development stage where constructions are everywhere and possibly the drawback for some areas.Plenty of huge luxury shopping centers with less people than the usual malls we have back home except weekend of Thursday and Fridays. Local women in traditional dress (abaya) worn with pride on a daily basis showing their fashionable heeled stilettos or stacked heels while men with the usual thawbs ,beards and moustache that emphasizes their strong willed personalities. The population consists higher percentage of expatriates than locals working in different fields with equally reasonable wage based on level of position. Cost of living is way better than Dubai, but if you’re a real clubber and can’t live without the juicy strips of bacon then you have to stash extra bucks to gratify your fancy. Instagramable coffee shops sites, the aroma of roasted beans lingers in your head ,scrummy taste of pastries or muffins even a bite of chocolate cookie and a sip of hot Turkish coffee are definitely worth of a try. Have lived here for 4 years and I could say Qatar is a glam and gem, beautifully flicker on its own that earns a spot on your list as well.
Imagine the brightest night and sky full of stars. Imagine that you are 10-12 years again and you watch the night sky. From all those stars you choose one and make it yours and look for it every night. One night that star becomes real and you start to feel the beauty of life and understand the meaning of living.You can feel the warmth, you can feel the joy and your biggest wish is to share that with the world. 𝙏𝙝𝙖𝙩’𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙖𝙧𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙞𝙢𝙖𝙜𝙞𝙣𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 a blank space in between the lines of our thoughts creating sanity in our subconscious mind awaken the senses of our souls to something beyond the horizon of reality.🍁
Sitting next to the glass window of 9th floor right on spot view of well-built architectures and busy bright lights on the street, cars moving everywhere trying to catch the day before it ends. I wonder why their weekend falls on Thursdays and Fridays what’s special on these days? Why not the usual Saturdays and Sundays? Facing the blank screen moving my cursor left and right puzzled of words hitting backspace and retype and backspace when the mocking blip from the boiling water just broke the silence ready to stir up my cup. Naively starring outside and see no stars could be the effect of the artificial lights in night sky that makes it hard to detect by own eyes just as how rare the rain shows up on this land. This isn’t my first time coming here however it’s different from all other days I took to this place. Maybe because the landscape is so magnificent? I don’t think so. Could it be that it’s such a beautiful night? Nah, that can’t be. Maybe it had to do with the fact that my mind can freely travel the farthest my sight could the way my hands navigate right words on keyboards to fill in the blank page. Guess I just found my feet when nobody can get my butt in gear when it comes to things I couldn’t do the whole week long. One great way to instill that feeling of happiness is simply sit in silence, for just few minutes, and just be. Observe the breath without inferring how slow or how fast it is going or what thoughts are coming and going and allow ourselves to actually feel our own presence. The presence of true self. The essence of who we are and this is what exactly I love about weekends when the birds are out of the cage and can freely soar highly in the sky.- 🍁
7 years ago I thought I had it perfect but I was wrong. I was frustrated, broken and confused. The only thing I̶ r̶e̶m̶e̶m̶b̶e̶r̶ I want to remember was I prayed ,called my friends for dinner, dated my bff, made coffee in the mid of the night, watched Netflix, cry in between when it reached the tip point of my emotion, slept at 4am and just bothered my head thinking a lot of stuffs that was almost about to explode at any moment of time. That’s how I coped in. As luck would have, it didn’t last long. When one door closes ,the window opens for sure. While driving back to Ubud this was how the conversation went through with my bestfriend playing the music “It only gets better by Wild”. There’s so much to look back and it’s fun while years are passing by, and yes every story lies which part to shut down or leave behind, apparently not everything taste like freshly baked donuts. Because the reality is some scenes we want to bury in topsy-turvy site and just forget about it totally that even dog won’t be able to find, if good memory hurts. After 365 days you’ll realized that it’s over and doing better this time. Well, way better.
On our way to our woody Bungalow we’ve seen Balinese people placing offerings in front of small shrines in their houses, a thin stick of burning incense surrounded by brightly colourful flowers and petals that brings balance and peace. It’s enthralling to see how devoted they are when it comes to their spiritual practices that I don’t normally witness back home. We tried to meet Cokorda, a Balinese healer for the sake of trying but he’s not around, there are others but we got lazy finding them. Mostly we don’t have an itinerary ready, adventure happens along the road. Backpacks, sneakers and sometimes flip flops or bikes is all you need in Ubud. No need for clay fancy things. Respect that won’t cost an arm and leg, the basic and simplest you should always have.
There are significant situations I’ve come to learn of, much greater scale than my tale. When we lose control over the ball game, the missed opportunities, the uncomfortable circumstances, we easily get pressured and act stupid sometimes. It could break us apart but what we don’t realized is that God may have saved us from something worse and brought us closer to what we actually prayed for. Have faith in blessings in disguise. Disappointments and annoyances will come and go, we can’t stop those. But we can practice to live everyday not feeding our attention and emotions with all the negativity around. Let’s change how we think. Let’s see life in a perpective of being fortunate and happy, the more we will feel contented and blessed. This came out in my mind when we stopped in a local coffee shop as what we used to do. I just couldn’t contain my happiness and be thankful for what had happened to where it lead me now. I’m glad it did. Truly God is amazing. -🍁
Liking someone is okay. Crushes are normal. First love is cool. Those are the perks of being teenies. I’ve been on that road too. I get that. You might think you’re big enough but trust me, you are very young lady, really! You should have fun and enjoy the tick of the clock cause it will never be the same twice. There are plenty of beautiful things in the world that you must see so don’t rush to grow up. Be excited about life. Experience every stage of it. Don’t fall too hard. Love yourself first. Always! Always! Keep your pride as a young girl until the time comes right. I don’t know about this young boy but be the princess that wears her crown in her head and wouldn’t let her heart get defeated in any case, not yet. 💜
Had finished almost half of my coffee and it was passed 12 midnight. I got a call from a friend about the annulment she filed on her birthday. They got married for 8 years but they lost the spark between pain and hatred years after marriage. I asked if they really need to do that cause they have a daughter, but she’s done. Done being a wife to a monster (perhaps the kinder version). I can see her happy but not broken with the separation, in fact more excited to officially have her last name back. She started haunting some guys that fits her box of gems (you know the typical boy next door) with the long list of requirements. Well, all of us are crazy in particular ways, unfortunately it wasn’t always the same as when we were in the early twenties. In her case, most of them are taken or not interested and that breaks her more. She started losing her confidence. I mean hey! Aren’t you supposed to fix yourself first? Apparently, that doesn’t work for her. She can’t stay single for long, how do you think you’ll find the right man when everything is all mess? I just couldn’t blame her , but it’s sad knowing every night she cries for the same reason of degrading herself. You never seem inlove with your ex husband ,why did you marry him? She said she tried, but trying wasn’t enough. She thought love could be learned. Why not? When you have reasons and made a vow in the first place through thick and thin till death do you part. It’s a decision you choose everyday, but I’m not her. Not in her shoe to know what’s best or not. We could all go wrong picking people in our lives and there are days when the truth is not very appealing. Our minds have the capacity to create wonderful romantic fantasies and I don’t see a problem with that so long as you too know that reality exist. According to the brilliant de Botton, we mustn’t abandon our flawed partners simply because our marriages aren’t living up to childhood daydreams. It could be a lot of work but if you truly love the person it’s gonna be a different story and may not end up signing the papers.
Getting married is not the ONLY ticket to happiness. Yes, it feels amazing but that doesn’t come without some degree of commitment,compromise and sacrifice. Cause the real deal comes from fighting through the tough times and never giving up. It’s either you get rewarded or punished. 𝗠𝗮𝗿𝗿𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗿𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗹𝗼𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗸 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗯𝗲𝗴𝘂𝗻 𝗴𝗿𝗼𝘄𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗽𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗹𝗼𝗼𝗸 𝗯𝗮𝗰𝗸 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗼𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝘂𝗽𝗼𝗻 𝗮𝗻 𝗼𝗿𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗿𝘆 𝗱𝗮𝘆 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗺𝗲𝘁 𝗮 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲𝗿 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗳𝗲𝗹𝗹 𝗶𝗻𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲, 𝗱𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗺𝗲𝗱 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝘂𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗺𝗶𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝗮 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝗼𝗴𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿. Go back to love like it’s the first time, go back to basics when things get rough, you figured it out once you’re gonna do it again. -🍁
Yes, this place fits perfect. Away from the bees, just a relaxing presence of bubbles and water with a lemongrass scent or lavander. Well, this definitely a comfort of all my quirks from soulful soul to dirty secrets. Standing in front of the vanity mirror with my bareface, the large pores and the blemishes, I see myself, the flawed self. You can find me here on my happiest peak or silently crying during bad days. I don’t know but there’s something about bathrooms for real emotions and balance. I can just simply sit and play games or check out the latest trend in the newsfeed or simply call my friends and have some gossips. Or give me 10 minutes and I can set my mind for meditation that I couldn’t do in my room cause it’s more quiet and free from distractions. It’s like a sanctuary of escapism ,a short trip to a great hiding spot so long as you lock the door. Ooooppss🤷🏼♀️! -🍁
𝗜𝗳 you’ve been cheated on🥂 *𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗲𝗿𝘀**!You’re finally way out of a messy past.It’s tough, you’re broken,your world fell apart,you don’t deserved it,from top back on the ground starting from zero.It’s more painful than the word itself I know. And that’s okay. Good life awaits ahead, keep moving forward,continue chasing tomorrow. Never get tired to say thankyou.God may need to re align few things in your life to connect the dots towards a bigger picture of his masterpiece.He never disappoints,you have to believe that.He can’t take you further unless you trust his unknown ways.Hold your faith high even without seeing it beforehand.He breathed life into you not to be taken for granted by anyone but because you have a purpose,because you are special,because he loves you.𝙀𝙭𝙞𝙨𝙩! Make it worthwhile.-🍁