Author Ms. Ween
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When She Leaves
It’s never easy for a good woman to walk away, especially after she has invested so much of herself into making it work. Just know that by the time she finally decides to leave, she’s given you countless chances and debated the idea over and over in her head. She’s exhausted, frustrated and totally heartbroken to have to walk away to a man who deep down inside she still loves and is willing to fight for.
It’s hard for her to walk away. When a good woman leaves, it’s usually not because of another man but rather because you’ve changed and the man you’ve become, is no longer the same as the one she fell in love with.
Often she will leave the door slightly open for a short period because she’s hoping that you will come around but if it’ll take you too long, she’ll be gone forever. – MAS
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The gentle sun-kissed at eight in the morning as the wind blows playing my messy hair, the humming tweets of the birds in every corner of the wooden balcony around the green lushes of big trees sighted as far, the strong aroma scent of coffee and the garlic butter toast on the table, people running down the street wearing their beautiful smiles, the fact that I got up of bed is already a blessing. It’s been the routine mostly everyday to check my newsfeed while I savor every sip of my coffee either on Facebook or Instagram and taking fire selfies will surely never go out of style. Some things just never change. I was kinda hoping to receive a message from him since it’s evening in his time but nothing. I logged back in to the dating site (AD) and randomly browsed seeing guys from different curves of the world looking for fun and those for serious commitment. You don’t say I have high expectations of meeting someone from the app but I want to give it a try as some couples do have their successful meet-cutes stories online. 2 hours had passed and I heard a beep from my phone. “Good Morning, How was your sleep?” I was excited knowing later on we we’re gonna do a video call. I found myself day dreaming and smiling a lot with my blush on (you know the kind when you’re giddy). I wanted to say I’m yours, just tell me when to start. Really? Okay, I’m exaggerating. But for 2 days he made me feel so good, like wow! My sister used to tell me that I should write down all the qualities my future husband must have, which I did. I’ve got plenty and I remember the top on the list was he should be God fearing. My eyes lit up when he asked about my religion and saw he’s happy upon hearing I’m a Catholic. “God did you just sent this man?” Because I’ll take him without a second thought. It’s funny he would always say if he’s making me scared because of his kids.
“Hi”

You are hard to find. I thought it was you once or twice, but youโre still hidingโฆsomewhere.
Your eyes tell a story. I know inside of you is so deeply beautiful. Iโm almost sure you donโt know that, and maybe donโt see it even in the mirror. If you let me, Iโll teach you what I see in you, tell you how great you are.
You might be serious, happy, smart, funny, shy, artistic, like staying home or partying all night. You might be jealous, bipolar, emo, and throw thing when youโre angry (and all of that is okay). I like all of those things because theyโre part of you I might be lucky enough to see. But if I miss you and youโd like to talk, please just say โhiโ.
If youโre too shy or donโt know what to say, just tell me :do you like a sunrise or sunset? Do you like the mountains or the ocean, or Netflix at home? Coffee, or wine maybe?
So if you think youโre ready, just say “hi” and weโll take it from there.
Stop Chasing

No matter how old you are whether youโre 12 or 45, we are all at the same level when we have a crush or love and the tendency sometimes most of us donโt trust the process thatโs when we start to chase, and you know exactly when youโre chasing. So instead of, be yourself , do your own thing and work hard. As Will Smith once said โThe right people, the ones who really belong in your life, will come to you and stayโ. I truly believe in that. But ofcourse when youโre young chasing itโs fun, chasing is some kind of adventure until one day you get tired and just let go of things the way itโs supposed to and maybe in everything thereโs always an exception yet itโs very important knowing what makes you come alive and then go do that.
Yesterday I was browsing on Youtube kept scrolling down until I saw the homily of Father Fidel. I was curious so I opened it. I loved how he delivered the message, the way he talks, heโs fun and I felt the sincerity of his words.โ To whatever blessing God has put your name on, itโs yours! So if itโs meant for you, itโs meant for youโ. You donโt have really to work your ass hard to keep people in your life, whoever! Friends, romance, strangers, whoever! Because right people doesnโt want to be chased rather they want to stay. Yes, love is very exciting but just remember everyone inevitably disappoints you in some way or another.
If You Fall Inlove, Fall Inlove -๐

Once you fall inloveย thereโs no turning back. Itโs a one hell adventure. The sad truth? Sometimes the other heart fall out of love, no matter how we all wish to keep them for the rest of our lives. This isnโt some clichรฉ sayings but it is what it is. Just like the moon we go through phases, but letโs complete the lunar cycle and return to our bright self again. After all we can all smile by habit not by choice. This isnโt some clichรฉ sayings but it is what it is. They say when you meet your one true love then it will last forever. But I donโt believe in that. I donโt think thereโs only one true love exist because in every relationship most often we started it with, PERFECT! He/she is the one! Until the day theyโre not. Anyone youโre interested in or attracted to could be a potential, the challenging part is how to keep that fire burning and watch both of your feet dancing under the same beat. One morning you wake up, you maybe looking into different directions, starring at the blank wall while the intensity of the fire slowly cooling down and turning into ashes, moving your feet with different music, and yet holding each other hands tightly not to slip away. For me, thatโs what true love is. Itโs more than a feeling but a commitment to an imperfect people in an imperfect situation, seeking the highest good which often times requires sacrifice. Perfect people are easy to love. But none of us are perfect. Sooner or later we will disappoint each other but true love is a commitment towards imperfect people and still seeing the best of them. When we invest in something, lose everything good before even declaring a bankruptcy . We can let something slide 1,020ย times but after that, we can forget about second chances. If you know what I mean. Remember there are two sides to every coin, if you fall inlove, fall inlove! Because in every lunar cycle the moon disappears for a while and it has a dark side too. We commonly hear โnever change for someone to satisfy their fancy, I agree on that and I also agree that thereโs a certain point in life when we have to change ourselves for the better โnot for someone but because we know deep down we have some inner work to do. You and me could have some tangled mess of contradictory things, not to scare anyone but to properly love and not to worry about a thing because love is just very exciting and yet inevitably disappoints in some way or another.
My Favorite Lessons I’ll Take with ME

One of my favourite to say, is โTRY ITโ, thatโs the first. To feed your curiosity about anything youโve got to see it yourself instead of asking what if? what if? Itโs not all the time you will be served of what youโve asked for, let say someone invited for an overnight camping but you donโt feel like going cause itโs not comfortable to sleep with mosquitoes flying around or a nice washroom for vanity sane, so you reject them. I couldnโt travel alone, itโs scary! What if I get lost? or who will take pictures of me? No way! I donโt look good in orange, Iโll wear my favourite colour green. Iโm not into hot chocolate, Iโll go for a coffee instead. I donโt like skydiving, Iโm gonna die. And the list goes on. We seem to think that we know our self so well, that we know our preferences, what we like and weโre pretty quick to make up our minds about things that seems boring to us. If you always assume that youโre right and not even open to listen to others and change your mind, you will never grow. Because in order to grow you need to challenge your beliefs. You have to question them and you need others to question them as well. Whenever youโre having an argument with someone, look for reasons to be wrong. One of the quotes I like is from George Bernard Shaw โ Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anythingโ. At certain point I was that girl and I still am sometimes, when I canโt really push myself, but none of these things I have or wouldnโt be in a place where I am now without the trying and slowly walking away from my comfort zone. Sure, failure is part of the scene but youโll never know unless you โTRY ITโ. You could either fall, get up and keep walking or stay in your comfort and never grow at all.
The 2nd โCHANGE YOUR SELF-COMPARISON MINDSETโ. I mean I donโt think thereโs someone who never compared/compares himself/herself to others. Itโs the natural flow of our minds as human. Itโs not always bad cause we have those that does good to us, however if itโs the kind that demotivates and makes us feel less then thatโs a different story. A common situation is you went to a skin clinic and you feel so good and proud of yourself and then suddenly someone walks in already have a glowing skin and all of a sudden you donโt feel good about yourself anymore, but the truth is that person didnโt start of that way. She may even went to the clinic for years and spent too much to achieve the skin youโre getting envy now. You donโt know their whole story. You need to believe the small steps that you are taking and trust itโs value.
The 3rd is โYOUR PATH WILL CHANGE AND THATโS OKAYโ. Recently I had lots of changes in my life, aside from the current situation weโre all facing now, but then things may not always go the way we had planned no matter how much grip we put on it, change will still show up. I realized that in order to be okay with the change I have to learn to live with the uncertainty because thatโs what really change creates. It creates uncertainty. Iโm still working on it but living with it.
And the 4th is โYOU CANโ. When you donโt like a thing, change the way you think about it. Complaining canโt help. Because change wonโt change to make you feel good, you need to make it happen yourself. No one gives a crap about you. Taking full responsibility over your life wonโt happen overnight, you have to work on it and โYOU CANโ.
I am by no means an expert but these are some of the valuable ones I’ve come to take with me. What about yours?
๐ช๐ต๐ ๐ ๐๐ผ๐ปโ๐ ๐๐ฎ๐๐ฒ ๐ ๐ ๐๐ -๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฎ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐๐ณ?

๐๐ฉ was late at night when I called my friends for a coffee or a beer outside but none of them were available except for Sham. He was with me on my low peak season. I was 24. We used to be colleagues and had our own relationships when we met. Weโre good friends, no special attraction, we just jived along really well. I liked his wit about anything, what a smart-ass! Heโs very opinionated and his sense of humor was just awesome.One day I woke up and found myself โ๐๐๐๐๐๐โ. It took months to move on from my first ever relationship. Iโve asked for signs and seen all in him so I thought heโs the one. And honestly I quit believing on each of them. Maybe the signs were not all made to support my fantasy. After the break up with my ex bf, Sham had been more consistent not the courting part cause we never had that I think but yeah he always sent me sweet and long comforting messages to make me feel okay, going out for dinner, coffee and talk endlessly about life, the happy and embarrassing moments, weird people, rude clients, how to train dogs as per Cesar Milan, know the alpha wolf from the rest of the pack, favourite series, how much he loves Nina Dobrev and Blake Lively and claiming Adam Levine my future husband next life, those silly stuffs. Nothing much of a heart talk. I enjoyed the terms and the status of officially dating each other, barely the closest I can describe right now. Monthsary wasnโt our big thing, canโt remember when exactly but it was closed to Christmas when he said he loves me and it all started there.
๐๐๐จ๐ฉ ๐๐ค๐ง๐ฌ๐๐ง๐.. It lasted for few years. The relationship was based more on friendship rather than the typical couple youโll see walking down the street or cinemas, celebrating Valentineโs Day with the candle lights, or me getting a bouquet of flowers. Surprises? Nah! Heโs the worst believe me. He did once on my birthday, he bought shoes but an inch longer than my foot size. Usually heโd ask me to get dress and pick me up to do shopping and buy what I want or just go wherever for a good lunch/dinner, movie and ride on his big bike, whatever. Heโs pretty outgoing. Works for me too. Heโs one of the sweetest person Iโve ever known. We did plenty of adventures on the road , weโve grown and get matured together, heโs the first person I run to when Iโm happy or excited or even when in trouble. And so as he. Thatโs what I appreciate the most about us, being a cast on every episode nevertheless in every scene.
A simple and quiet night twist the story. I donโt think he meant to ever hurt me but he had. I knew he was dating someone else months before. I can act angry and upset and yell and kick and scream but I didnโt instead I prepared myself and moved on, tried living a life I never had. That’s too early to be swept away but the appetizer was served and the main course has finally arrived. I managed to keep myself composed which made me sound like the most pathetic person youโll ever know. The moment he spit out the truth I felt relieved and shattered. I was waiting for that very second but felt different when youโre actually hearing it. I was okay but disappointed. I was hurt but chose to accept it. I was too nice for that lie (or maybe I wasnโt). I loved him but itโs over. I canโt hate him because I knew how much he loved and cared for me (well before the cheating part). And I canโt give another chance because we deserved a good life separately. He was crying and I wasnโt, done weeks ago during my sleepless nights. I told him words that sure did melt and broke his heart in a nice way. We had a heart to heart talk and mutually released both ends of the string. We kept the show going to avoid the intriguing questions of our friends or anyone around us โwhy we broke upโ. Until I left the country. Thatโs a trick to my graceful exit.
Iโm a fan of happy ever after endings in every movie. I mean, who doesnโt? We may have different perceptions of happy endings and in most cases, itโs the love affair that catches two people completely off-guard and end up in wedding bells and colorful confetti. That’s obviously not my story. But I truly believe that if youโre not a good a fit then you wonโt. Breakups are blessings too. Donโt let it defeat you instead rise stronger and be more resilient. Itโs always a matter of choice, choose wisely. Iโm happy with where I am now, how far I’ve come, whoever I am with. I just feel very blessed that God brought me here with the decisions I’ve made, which probably woudn’t happen if maybe I wasnโt being cheated on. So it’s not always a bad thing, sometimes it’s even more like a lucky charm. At least for me.-๐๐งฟ
How do you deal with ๐๐ง๐๐๐ ๐ช๐ฅ๐จ? What works for you? I would love to hear about it!
๐๐ฒ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ฒ๐๐ ๐๐๐ฑ๐ด๐ฒ๐บ๐ฒ๐ป๐๐ฎ๐น ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ป๐ด๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐ ๐ ๐๐ถ๐ณ๐ฒ

Trust me itโs not easy as how comfortable I am while sitting and telling you now. #Realtalk? Well, itโs easier to judge people by the way they look, or how they talk and sometimes simply by watching their walks set an instant notion making patterns and associations even when they aren’t necessarily solid either in a good way or bad whatever might be. Could be a nod mutely at a friend’s tale of career, relationship, family woes and thought she was making a crazy choice? I mean who didnโt? I do! And it might be a place or a thing, maybe a food doesnโt matter. The thing is being judgemental is not a behaviour that serves us a golden plate. Letโs face it, we judge because weโre trying to fill in the gaps in our logic about the world around us. Thereโs more we DONโT know, than we DO know, so we try to โguessโ. When we do, thatโs making a judgement. Iโve heard million times not to judge people, and itโs funny how the same people judge other people harshly. I think thatโs quite interesting telling someone you shouldnโt but I can.
Like a spur of the moment I just want to be a better soul. Slowly. Walking. Trying. Learning. Living.
So instead of being quick to say what I want to say, I breathe and pick my words before I open my mouth and say something. We donโt have a universal opinion on anything rather we go by what we thought of first, thatโs the state of human nature to form impressions and opinions. โYou treat others well and the Universe will reflect this treatment back onto youโ. Getting the balance between open-mindedness and understanding nuance judgements is a life-long project. I am by far no expert myself, but I do enjoy a good positive exchange of judgement. Everybody has itโs own test in life and nobodyโs having a perfect straight line. I have some shares too and acknowledging it feels great. Replace criticisms with compassion. It makes me actually have a healthier relationship with myself and people around. Iโm much better in understanding, listening or even giving an advice which makes someone find me could be trusted or someone to have a comfortable conversation with and I think that’s pretty amazing. โEveryone we know and everyone we meet has a secret struggle that no one knows aboutโ.Itโs not really about being perfectly perfect or being too nice but a little respect for each of us carrying our own baggage, be heavy or not.
๐๐๐๐ ๐ช๐ต๐ฒ๐ป ๐ง๐ต๐ฒ ๐ง๐ถ๐บ๐ฒ ๐ถ๐ ๐ฅ๐ถ๐ด๐ต๐

๐๐ซ๐๐ง๐ฎ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐๐ฅ๐ฅ๐๐ฃ๐จ ๐๐ค๐ง ๐ ๐ง๐๐๐จ๐ค๐ฃ and we hear this quite often whether good or bad. But sometimes when itโs too bad and weโre too disappointed it doesnโt work as easy to accept the statement. But let me say it again, everything happens for a reason and when we say everything we cannot pick and choose which is which even if it will hurts us totally and break us apart. God may cause things to happen to get us closer to our destined path which brings us some thoughts lingering our heads and shaken up a bit of our faith and confidence, and that is fine. Weโre human, weโre not perfect and we donโt need to be. And yet we also we can remind ourselves to stay positive, incidents happen because life happens but sometimes weโre too busy ignoring the uneasy and uncomfortable phase because we just want to focus on the best ones and forget that there are humps on the road before reaching our destination. When some adversity comes we wonder why this has happened to us. I used to ask myself that too, then Iโll start comparing my situation to others.
๐ฝ๐ช๐ฉ ๐โ๐ซ๐ ๐ก๐๐๐ง๐ฃ๐๐ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฉ ๐ก๐๐๐ ๐ฌ๐๐จ ๐ฃ๐๐ซ๐๐ง ๐จ๐ช๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ค๐จ๐๐ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐๐ ๐๐๐จ๐ฎ. Life is a continuous learning and some lessons are really hard but no matter what , youโve got to try your best to get the 100% result. The journey is a long drive and it may require you to make few stops, itโs full of challenges and adventures. And yet at the end of the day if we choose not to give up it defines us. I used to hear this from my mom when we were still young. We always dream a good life like the ones we see from other people, from the movies we watched, celebrities, successful businessmen but never get to thank the ones we have. Those people who live in the street sidewalks or lying down in the hospital bed are dreaming the kind of life we are complaining about. And that sucks, not knowing how blessed we are. How beautiful our life is. Thereโs so much to be grateful for and gratitude is the key. We should always be thankful not just for the exceeded expectation but simply because weโre here breathing in our own comforts. Donโt practice and master the flow of bitterness in your life cause sooner or later it will drag you down. And thatโs not a good payback. No way!
Letโs give the appreciation to ourselves that regardless of the hardship we keep on striving and stand still for what itโs called life and living. Thatโs why you should love yourself more than anything for always giving you a good fight and winning it.

Most of us wants the convenience of transformation. We have goals weโre trying to achieve, but sometimes the person we are right now is not the person we need when we cross the bridge of our dreams. So we need to take a bit of a walk and pace ourselves on this path to success because we havenโt grown enough in ourselves.
While waiting for your time to take off, condition yourself 100 % for a good long run. Iโm not just talking about physically but emotionally and spiritually, these are strong foundation to kick in. And still you will fall a lot, I mean a whole lot but never take a โNOโ for an answer, and donโt be afraid of no’s. Because the reality of life is that we hear more no’s than yes’s. That’s the harsh truth. And itโs up to you if you will let yourself get affected for every single NO! See we want to grow but we want to stay liked by everyone just like how we share our statuses on facebook or instagram. The reason why a lot of us wonโt become who we want is because weโre too attached to who weโve been. Weโre afraid of change, well I do! But I knew it wasnโt working for me any longer. I can live with my routinary stuffs everyday but that doesnโt serve my happiness anymore. I reached the point where I look at myself finding my purpose. I want to give my dream a chance. I want to experience the adventure on this road, whatever is up there. I don’t care. As long as I get there.
So today I challenge you to fight, to work, not to stop here, to believe so heavily in your aspirations that you will not fear the word โNOโ but instead you will choose to welcome it with that good feeling. Because any of us can be amazing if we just grab life with both hands.
The world wants the best version of you, the world wants to see what are you capable of, so why are you hiding from the shadow of people you think better than you when you can show the world what youโve got. I believe good things are available to all of us, we may not equally born with the best things in life but itโs there if we donโt give up, if we have the right attitude and mindset, if we work hard and say yes to chances. We canโt change how we started but we can always choose how we want it to end. Don’t embarrass yourself for giving it a room full of regrets.- One day when you look back.๐