One of my favourite to say, is “TRY IT”, that’s the first. To feed your curiosity about anything you’ve got to see it yourself instead of asking what if? what if? It’s not all the time you will be served of what you’ve asked for, let say someone invited for an overnight camping but you don’t feel like going cause it’s not comfortable to sleep with mosquitoes flying around or a nice washroom for vanity sane, so you reject them. I couldn’t travel alone, it’s scary! What if I get lost? or who will take pictures of me? No way! I don’t look good in orange, I’ll wear my favourite colour green. I’m not into hot chocolate, I’ll go for a coffee instead. I don’t like skydiving, I’m gonna die. And the list goes on. We seem to think that we know our self so well, that we know our preferences, what we like and we’re pretty quick to make up our minds about things that seems boring to us. If you always assume that you’re right and not even open to listen to others and change your mind, you will never grow. Because in order to grow you need to challenge your beliefs. You have to question them and you need others to question them as well. Whenever you’re having an argument with someone, look for reasons to be wrong. One of the quotes I like is from George Bernard Shaw “ Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything”. At certain point I was that girl and I still am sometimes, when I can’t really push myself, but none of these things I have or wouldn’t be in a place where I am now without the trying and slowly walking away from my comfort zone. Sure, failure is part of the scene but you’ll never know unless you “TRY IT”. You could either fall, get up and keep walking or stay in your comfort and never grow at all.
The 2nd “CHANGE YOUR SELF-COMPARISON MINDSET”. I mean I don’t think there’s someone who never compared/compares himself/herself to others. It’s the natural flow of our minds as human. It’s not always bad cause we have those that does good to us, however if it’s the kind that demotivates and makes us feel less then that’s a different story. A common situation is you went to a skin clinic and you feel so good and proud of yourself and then suddenly someone walks in already have a glowing skin and all of a sudden you don’t feel good about yourself anymore, but the truth is that person didn’t start of that way. She may even went to the clinic for years and spent too much to achieve the skin you’re getting envy now. You don’t know their whole story. You need to believe the small steps that you are taking and trust it’s value.
The 3rd is “YOUR PATH WILL CHANGE AND THAT’S OKAY”. Recently I had lots of changes in my life, aside from the current situation we’re all facing now, but then things may not always go the way we had planned no matter how much grip we put on it, change will still show up. I realized that in order to be okay with the change I have to learn to live with the uncertainty because that’s what really change creates. It creates uncertainty. I’m still working on it but living with it.
And the 4th is “YOU CAN”. When you don’t like a thing, change the way you think about it. Complaining can’t help. Because change won’t change to make you feel good, you need to make it happen yourself. No one gives a crap about you. Taking full responsibility over your life won’t happen overnight, you have to work on it and “YOU CAN’.
I am by no means an expert but these are some of the valuable ones I’ve come to take with me. What about yours?