Trust me it’s not easy as how comfortable I am while sitting and telling you now. #Realtalk? Well, it’s easier to judge people by the way they look, or how they talk and sometimes simply by watching their walks set an instant notion making patterns and associations even when they aren’t necessarily solid either in a good way or bad whatever might be. Could be a nod mutely at a friend’s tale of career, relationship, family woes and thought she was making a crazy choice? I mean who didn’t? I do! And it might be a place or a thing, maybe a food doesn’t matter. The thing is being judgemental is not a behaviour that serves us a golden plate. Let’s face it, we judge because we’re trying to fill in the gaps in our logic about the world around us. There’s more we DON’T know, than we DO know, so we try to “guess”. When we do, that’s making a judgement. I’ve heard million times not to judge people, and it’s funny how the same people judge other people harshly. I think that’s quite interesting telling someone you shouldn’t but I can.
Like a spur of the moment I just want to be a better soul. Slowly. Walking. Trying. Learning. Living.
So instead of being quick to say what I want to say, I breathe and pick my words before I open my mouth and say something. We don’t have a universal opinion on anything rather we go by what we thought of first, that’s the state of human nature to form impressions and opinions. “You treat others well and the Universe will reflect this treatment back onto you”. Getting the balance between open-mindedness and understanding nuance judgements is a life-long project. I am by far no expert myself, but I do enjoy a good positive exchange of judgement. Everybody has it’s own test in life and nobody‘s having a perfect straight line. I have some shares too and acknowledging it feels great. Replace criticisms with compassion. It makes me actually have a healthier relationship with myself and people around. I’m much better in understanding, listening or even giving an advice which makes someone find me could be trusted or someone to have a comfortable conversation with and I think that’s pretty amazing. “Everyone we know and everyone we meet has a secret struggle that no one knows about”.It’s not really about being perfectly perfect or being too nice but a little respect for each of us carrying our own baggage, be heavy or not.