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๐๐ฎ๐๐ฒ ๐ง๐ฎ๐น๐ธ๐๐
Had finished almost half of my coffee and it was passed 12 midnight. I got a call from a friend about the annulment she filed on her birthday. They got married for 8 years but they lost the spark between pain and hatred years after marriage. I asked if they really need to do that cause they have a daughter, but sheโs done. Done being a wife to a monster (perhaps the kinder version). I can see her happy but not broken with the separation, in fact more excited to officially have her last name back. She started haunting some guys that fits her box of gems (you know the typical boy next door) with the long list of requirements. Well, all of us are crazy in particular ways, unfortunately it wasnโt always the same as when we were in the early twenties. In her case, most of them are taken or not interested and that breaks her more. She started losing her confidence. I mean hey! Arenโt you supposed to fix yourself first? Apparently, that doesnโt work for her. She canโt stay single for long, how do you think youโll find the right man when everything is all mess? I just couldnโt blame her , but itโs sad knowing every night she cries for the same reason of degrading herself. You never seem inlove with your ex husband ,why did you marry him? She said she tried, but trying wasnโt enough. She thought love could be learned. Why not? When you have reasons and made a vow in the first place through thick and thin till death do you part. Itโs a decision you choose everyday, but Iโm not her. Not in her shoe to know what’s best or not. We could all go wrong picking people in our lives and there are days when the truth is not very appealing. Our minds have the capacity to create wonderful romantic fantasies and I don’t see a problem with that so long as you too know that reality exist. According to the brilliant de Botton, we mustnโt abandon our flawed partners simply because our marriages arenโt living up to childhood daydreams. It could be a lot of work but if you truly love the person it’s gonna be a different story and may not end up signing the papers.
Getting married is not the ONLY ticket to happiness. Yes, it feels amazing but that doesn’t come without some degree of commitment,compromise and sacrifice. Cause the real deal comes from fighting through the tough times and never giving up. It’s either you get rewarded or punished. ๐ ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฟ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐ผ๐ป ๐๐ผ๐ ๐น๐ผ๐๐ฒ ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ป ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐ถ๐บ๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐๐ฎ๐ฟ๐๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐น๐ผ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐ฝ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ธ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐ด๐๐ป ๐ด๐ฟ๐ผ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฎ๐ฝ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ’๐ ๐๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ผ ๐น๐ผ๐ผ๐ธ ๐ฏ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ธ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ผ๐ป๐ฐ๐ฒ ๐๐ฝ๐ผ๐ป ๐ฎ๐ป ๐ผ๐ฟ๐ฑ๐ถ๐ป๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ ๐ฑ๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐บ๐ฒ๐ ๐ฎ ๐๐๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ป๐ด๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ณ๐ฒ๐น๐น ๐ถ๐ป๐น๐ผ๐๐ฒ, ๐ฑ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐บ๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐ฎ๐ฏ๐ผ๐๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ณ๐๐๐๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ฝ๐ฟ๐ผ๐บ๐ถ๐๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐ฎ ๐น๐ถ๐ณ๐ฒ๐๐ถ๐บ๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ด๐ฒ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ. Go back to love like it’s the first time, go back to basics when things get rough, you figured it out once you’re gonna do it again. -๐