Had finished almost half of my coffee and it was passed 12 midnight. I got a call from a friend about the annulment she filed on her birthday. They got married for 8 years but they lost the spark between pain and hatred years after marriage. I asked if they really need to do that cause they have a daughter, but she’s done. Done being a wife to a monster (perhaps the kinder version). I can see her happy but not broken with the separation, in fact more excited to officially have her last name back. She started haunting some guys that fits her box of gems (you know the typical boy next door) with the long list of requirements. Well, all of us are crazy in particular ways, unfortunately it wasn’t always the same as when we were in the early twenties. In her case, most of them are taken or not interested and that breaks her more. She started losing her confidence. I mean hey! Aren’t you supposed to fix yourself first? Apparently, that doesn’t work for her. She can’t stay single for long, how do you think you’ll find the right man when everything is all mess? I just couldn’t blame her , but it’s sad knowing every night she cries for the same reason of degrading herself. You never seem inlove with your ex husband ,why did you marry him? She said she tried, but trying wasn’t enough. She thought love could be learned. Why not? When you have reasons and made a vow in the first place through thick and thin till death do you part. It’s a decision you choose everyday, but I’m not her. Not in her shoe to know what’s best or not. We could all go wrong picking people in our lives and there are days when the truth is not very appealing. Our minds have the capacity to create wonderful romantic fantasies and I don’t see a problem with that so long as you too know that reality exist. According to the brilliant de Botton, we mustn’t abandon our flawed partners simply because our marriages aren’t living up to childhood daydreams. It could be a lot of work but if you truly love the person it’s gonna be a different story and may not end up signing the papers.
Getting married is not the ONLY ticket to happiness. Yes, it feels amazing but that doesn’t come without some degree of commitment,compromise and sacrifice. Cause the real deal comes from fighting through the tough times and never giving up. It’s either you get rewarded or punished. 𝗠𝗮𝗿𝗿𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗿𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗹𝗼𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗸 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗯𝗲𝗴𝘂𝗻 𝗴𝗿𝗼𝘄𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗽𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗹𝗼𝗼𝗸 𝗯𝗮𝗰𝗸 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗼𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝘂𝗽𝗼𝗻 𝗮𝗻 𝗼𝗿𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗿𝘆 𝗱𝗮𝘆 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗺𝗲𝘁 𝗮 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲𝗿 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗳𝗲𝗹𝗹 𝗶𝗻𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲, 𝗱𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗺𝗲𝗱 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝘂𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗺𝗶𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝗮 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝗼𝗴𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿. Go back to love like it’s the first time, go back to basics when things get rough, you figured it out once you’re gonna do it again. -🍁